Know These Black Dating Tips if You’re No Longer the Apple of His Eye

These black dating tips will help you when you’re experiencing the sting of rejection. Rejection is when someone pushes you away.

Studies show that when you experience rejection, this travels on the same pathways in the brain that physical pain does. This explains why rejection is so doggone painful!

Psychologist Guy Winch offers insights on rejection. He writes, “Of course, emotional pain is only one of the ways rejections impact our well-being. Rejections also damage our mood and our self-esteem, they elicit swells of anger and aggression, and they destabilize our need to belong."

You can tell, can’t you, when your significant other has lost that loving feeling for you? Maybe you sense it first. Something inside nudges you, alerting you to a puzzling inclination.

Call it the heart whisperer, if you like. Or you notice outward signs: He looks elsewhere when he used to look at you and hang on to your every utterance. Now when he’s around you, he looks away and his Adam’s apple bobs. What’s up with this? 

Black Dating Tips Help You Discover What to do if He Rejects You…

  • You can talk things out. Find out what’s going wrong in the relationship. Maybe it can be worked out. Does he feel you put your work before him? Does he harbor resentment because you stood him up for a date? Talking will let you know exactly what the issue is. It needs to be put on the table and examined.
  • You can part ways. Suppose he’s found someone else and he doesn’t know how to tell you. It’s better to know sooner rather than later. He wants his space? Give it to him. A good cry in silence will make you feel better and will help you to move on. Black dating tips help heal wounds.
  • You can fall in love with apples. That’s right. Pick yourself up, make yourself an apple pie and have some with a cup of green tea. Don’t rush into another relationship. Spend time with yourself and go into introspection mode. Get to know yourself and work out major issues you have within yourself.
  • You can have another slice of apple pie. Oh yes, you can!

“So where does the name Adam’s apple come from? Most people say that it is from the notion that this bump was caused by the forbidden fruit getting stuck in the throat of Adam in the Garden of Eden.

There is a problem with this theory because some Hebrew scholars believe that the forbidden fruit was the pomegranate. The Koran claims that the forbidden fruit was a banana. So take your pick—Adam’s apple, Adam’s pomegranate, Adam’s banana. Eve clearly chewed before swallowing.” – Mark Leyner

Do not concentrate on any negative qualities you may feel you have. Or what you may have done wrong in the relationship. His rejection of you might just be his own issues.

Remind yourself that you are a wonderful and valuable person. Take steps to reaffirm the great aspects of yourself. Check out my article Black Women Dating. It gives tips on How Ella Got Her Self-Esteem Back.

You’ll Find More Black Dating Tips in the Quotes Below

“Isn’t that the greatest tragedy? When someone rejects us, no matter how they abuse our love, we hope against reason that somehow they will come back to us.” 

~Suzanne Elizabeth Anderson, Mrs. Tuesday's Departure

“It’s common to reject or punish yourself when you’ve been rejected by others. When you experience disappointment from the way your family or others treat you, that’s the time to take special care of yourself. What are you doing to nurture yourself? What are you doing to protect yourself? Find a healthy way to express your pain.” 

~Christina Enevoldsen

"What feels like rejection is often God’s protection when you’re heading in the wrong direction."

~ Donna Partow

Winch, Guy, and Guy Winch. "Why Rejection Hurts so Much - and What to Do about It." Ideas.ted.com. December 08, 2015. Accessed March 29, 2019. https://ideas.ted.com/why-rejection-hurts-so-much-and-what-to-do-about-it/.

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