Attract your gentle lover by first working on yourself. Many people search the world over, looking for love. And many are disappointed in that they never find it.
People are not meant to be alone, and this yearning for love is one facet that keeps poets in business.
Love doesn’t make the world go ‘round.
Love is what makes the ride worthwhile.
~Franklin P. Jones
Why do so many people fail to find their gentle lover? It could be because they have not set into motion the law of attraction, which draws that special someone into their sphere.
But before trying to work on the Universe by trying to get it to do something for you, realize that It is waiting for you to make the first move. This first move has to do with you working on yourself.
Remember how when you point your finger to blame someone, that the other fingers are pointing back at you? The same is true here. You must work on yourself first. Know that you deserve all good things.
For now, forget about your gentle lover. This is about you—about self-examination. There will be certain negative traits that you’ll need to clear out of your consciousness much like taking a broom and clearing out cobwebs that invade the corners of a room.
These cobwebs consist of resentment, envy, guilt, jealousy, anger, self-loathing, and so forth.
If your gentle lover tried to come to you when your consciousness is filled with negativity, he would come imbued with some of these negativities because you attract what’s in your consciousness; that is, you will attract what you are.
This is one reason why people have failed relationships—because there is too much negativity in a relationship for it to survive. Clean your house (conscious mind) first!
In order to work on your shortcomings before finding your gentle lover, you’ll need to acknowledge them. If you know you’re laboring under unresolved feelings of guilt, anger, resentment, or other negativity, seek help.
Some problems may be beyond your ability to deal with on your own. For other problems, reading books on the subject may free you from these unwanted emotions.
“When you are joyful, when you say yes to life and have fun and project positivity all around you, you become a sun in the center of every constellation, and people want to be near you.” ~Shannon L. Alder
Grab a book of uplifting quotes and fill your mind with them. Meditate on them. Believe them, and in time, your circumstances will improve. What’s inside you will be reflected on the outside automatically; that is, in your environment. The nature of the guys you attract will change.
Wish love to everyone, even if only through a smile. Rejoice at the good fortune of others. Become more complimentary and mean it. Are you having trouble doing this?
Then keep reading those quotes and meditate on them until you feel a change in your heart and see a change in your circumstances. Start your own book of quotes. Here are a few to get you started.
“Whenever you are creating beauty around you, you are restoring your own soul.”
“Our way of thinking creates good or bad outcomes.”
“Beauty is not in the face; beauty is a light in the heart.”
“Happiness is a perfume you cannot pour on others without getting a few drops on yourself.”
~Ralph Waldo Emerson
“Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies.”
“There are always flowers for those who want to see them.”
“We can never obtain peace in the outer world until we obtain peace with ourselves.”
“Have a heart that never hardens and a temper that never tires and a touch that never hurts.”
“I now believe that pain makes me stronger and now I believe that walking through a lot of rainstorms gets you clean.”
“Before you can successfully make friends with others, first you have to become your own friend.”
Find a quiet place where you will not be disturbed. Sit with your feet on the floor. Relax your body and close your eyes. Take a few slow deep breaths.
Inhale through your nose and exhale through your mouth. Repeat several times. When random thoughts enter your mind, just let them gently leave without entertaining them.
Say one or two positive quotes from the list above, from your own creation, from the Bible, or from another source. After you’ve said these quotes a few times in your mind or aloud, be quiet and listen. Just listen to the Universe. It may have a message for you.
If you’re not aware of any sound or feeling, it’s fine. The Universe hears you anyway. After a few minutes in silence and when you feel ready, bring yourself back into your body by gently wiggling your fingers and toes and become more awake.
These meditations may take a few minutes to half an hour. There’s no set time.
Repeat these meditations at least once a day. Your burdens will begin to lift. You do not need to dictate to the Universe what it is you want or need in your life. It knows. It will bring all good things to you automatically.
Positivity of mind attracts blessings such as prosperity, job opportunities, better health, and so forth. And when you’re in tune with it, it will also attract your gentle lover!
“All things be ready if our minds be so.”
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